If I just feel like emotionally attached to someone ? how to overcome attaching ?

If I just feel like emotionally attached to someone ? how to overcome attaching ?

What is the emotional attachment? how to overcome attaching to person?

It is to give a person or thing a certain value greater than its size and make it better than you personally and love it more than yourself, so that you become a slave to this thing or person.

I will tell you now a story about a vivid example of attachment and this is for science a true story where there was a girl attached to a person and she loved him madly, and although this girl had a very strong and wonderful personality and was very successful in her work, but when she met this person she was acting crazy She was besieging him and trying to prevent him from talking to anyone else, whether a man or a girl, and quarrels with him madly. That is because he used to treat her the worst and deliberately insulted her in front of everyone, and she was silent and implemented for him everything he wanted, even if it was against her principles or against her desire, but also she knew that what he asked of her could seriously harm her.And after a while, when he got tired of her, he simply left it. Can you imagine what happened to that girl !! She tried to commit suicide more than once and stayed in the hospital for more than a month, then psychological treatment for more than a year, and her working life was destroyed, but in the end this girl recovered after severe torture and became much stronger than before because she realized the truth and it is (Do not overdo it Your principles, your dignity, and your pride for the sake of anyone, be yourself despite the nose of others).

Types of people who fall victim to emotionally attached to someone:

1) The person who likes to take or gets used to taking everything he wants:

There are people who were raised from their childhood that when they want anything they find, and here I am not talking about a rich or poor person, there are poor people who fulfill the desires of their children, whatever they are, even if at the expense of themselves. And this is what he does in a state of stubbornness with oneself when he wants to control a person or make him love him and does not find a response from him, so he does everything he can to become this person with him knowing that he does not love this person is just wanted something, so he must get it as he grew up since childhood.

2) A person in a bad mood:

And here I am looking for a person who has gone through a big crisis in his life, such as losing a big project in which he put a large part of his money, or someone who lost his job, or someone who lost his wealth, and this person is subject to attachment, especially as he is not psychologically balanced at this stage and is easy to influence.

3) Feeling of loneliness and emptiness:

When a person does not have friends and is closed to himself and does not talk to anyone in a clearer sense, he does not have a life of his own, then this person is also vulnerable to falling into attachment.

4) Losing someone dear to you:

Losing someone dear to you, such as a father or mother, or both, or a friend very close to you, may make you look for an alternative to this person you trust and your relationships with him will be like the person you lost, but in fact the result is shocking in the end.

5) Love of possession :

There are people who like to own everything and impose their control over it, and here I am not talking about the thing that they own that it is only a person, but it may be other things such as his car, his cell phone, this person as soon as he starts a relationship with another person feels as if he owns this person and As if it were his car or his cell phone, he only determined his life and the way he used it.

6) Lack of self-confidence:

There are people who have low self-esteem and you because of many things, such as: that he is overweight or not handsome enough or for example because there is a scar on his face, this person always feels that no one will think of him or that no one of the opposite sex will want to be associated with him And here, when he finds interest in him from a certain person, he falls victim to attachment because he feels that this person will not find an alternative for him if he loses it.

7) Love is one-sided:

A person who loves one-sided often attaches hopes to the person he loves, and the other does not know and always imagines that he is in a relationship with him, but he did not take any step or try to hint this person that he admires him, so when he finds interest from this person who loves him here, he falls victim To hang on because he feels he has sacrificed a lot and made an extraordinary effort to get this person, but the truth is he did nothing, he was only imagining.

The types of people you emotionally attached to:

There are two types of people you might relate to:

First: A person who intends to make you fall victim to him:

Yes, he intends that to exploit you the worst exploitation and to feel overconfident in himself because he lacks the basis of confidence, but he will try to show this to those around him to make them feel the extent of his control over you and how weak you are in front of him and also they will complain to people, his friends around him and even your friends, you personally, how you are a disturbing person And you pursue him, and in the end he will leave you when he finds a new victim.Now let me tell you what signs of this person does to be his victim :The first stage :-1- Extra attention so you will get emotional connection of him:This person at the beginning of the relationship cares a lot for his victim and gives her a lot of his time and creates surprises for her to make her feel that there is no like him and that he deserves her trust.-2- Connect your senses and memories to it alone:This person knows very well how to make you relate to him alone and you cannot just think of imagining yourself with someone other than him and that by taking you and he is only to places that you have not visited before and he intends to be kind to you and hear you the best words and put Perfume so that it sticks in your mind and you remember it always, but also may guide you a song to make you whenever you hear this song anywhere you remember.-3- False promises about the future :This person will make you imagine your life together and how beautiful it is and that he will make you happy and that he will give birth to children from you and that he does not imagine his life without you and that he will bring you gifts and that your future will be brilliant together.-4- It makes you empathize with him:At this stage, he makes you feel that you are the closest person to him and tells you about difficult matters in his life and that he is in trouble for two reasons. The first reason is to know how much he is wronged and that he is a victim, and the second reason is to be exploited financially, so you give him without being counted.The second phase :And after these four methods that he uses with you, he begins to move to the second stage, which makes you subject to him, a slave in his hands, which are as follows:(1) Emotional starvation: meaning that he begins to change his dealings with you slowly, slowly to keep asking yourself what you did? Did I make a mistake ? Did you do something to make him angry? And you find yourself asking him constantly, Are you okay? are you happy ? do you love me ? Did you do something that upset you?

(2) He begins to question yourself: so that he tells you that you insulted him in such-and-such action, or told him something that angered him, and you did not say this at all, and to satisfy him, you find yourself apologizing for something that you did not do in the first place, but rather he was the one who deluded you with that.(3) Skepticism about your ability to think and deal with people: since if you have another point of view that differs from his view on a topic that concerns you, you will find him reacting to you and telling you that you do not know how to think and that you do not know how to deal with those around you and You are a naive person and this situation occurs over and over until suspicion strikes you, and then you think that you are really like this and that you cannot make a decision without it.(4) Calibrate you: In the stage when you are in agreement with him, you will have allowed him all the details of your personal and family life, but when you disagree with him, you will find him calibrating you with these things in a cruel manner that you did not imagine.(5) Threatening to leave you: You will find this person when you disagree with him or if you do not obey his orders, he will always threaten you that he will leave you and that you will remain alone and that no one will be able to accept you other than him and also you will be shocked if you find him insulting you in the ugliest words and assaulting you, and the strangest thing is that you are You cannot resist or even tell him: stop !! All you think is how to please this person so that he does not leave me.

 Second: A person for whom you are the reason for your attachment to him and forcing him to leave you because of your attachment in excess of its limit:

This person is like anyone looking for an honest relationship, but he is consistent with himself as he knows his needs and requirements for this relationship and knows what qualities that should be in his life partner and that are of course suitable for him.And you are the reason for his distance from you for several reasons that you do not want to understand:1 ) That you fell in love for the first time: your feelings and emotions are burning and there is a teenager and he does not want that, he wants someone more mature in his feelings.2 ) That you love him more than he loves you: you find yourself giving him without being counted and he does not need all of this.3 ) The different nature of education and culture between you: you may have an objection to one of his actions, and this behavior regarding him is a normal thing that he did not intend for anything and does not see as a defect, such as a man who has female friends or a woman who has male friends sometimes the partner believes This is not true, but for them, this is normal.4 ) He is always in a bad mood: If the person you relate to daily, you tell him about difficult situations in life, such as always telling him bad news in life, such as a traffic accident or the death of a person, which makes him grow tired of you and get tired of talking to you.5)  Trying to make him continue with you by affecting him: that you are a sick person, for example, and that he is the cause of this disease and the increase in the condition and holding him responsible for what will happen to him if you leave him.And here this person really wants to get rid of you in any way because you no longer possess the qualities that he wanted in your partner and he does not know how to tell you about this so that he does not hurt you, and this person in this case is not right because he must tell you the truth because this is how he torments himself And he torments you with him without even realizing it.

How do I know if I am emotionally connected to someone?

Now let me tell you what your situation is like when you are related to someone:

First: You will find that you hat yourself and being dominated by a sense of laziness and unwillingness to work or any other activity.

Second: You find yourself wanting to contact this person like a madman, especially if he does not answer you, and you become more crazy than before and you find yourself cannot stop trying to contact him over and over again, like a drug addict whose dose came.

Third: Do not be satisfied with the opinion of anyone else, not even the closest people to you, as your family.

Fourth: You withdraw from the world and become a source of your happiness when he calls you, even if he will insult you in this connection.

Fifth: You will be addicted to depression drugs and drugs to help you sleep.

Sixth: You will find yourself not accepting the idea that he may leave you because you feel in this case that life has no value without him and you may accept the end of your life.

Seventh: You always blame yourself if you angered him and you feel that you are the failed person who has no value in life.

Eighth: Your friends will turn away from you because they are full of your story because you always tell it to them and you do not know how to behave and how to make this person love you and you will find all people fleeing from you because you have become a depressing person for them and useless because you do not even listen to their advice.

 How to get rid of emotional attachment to someone and how to regain your confidence:

These points that I will talk about must always be put in front of you so that you can control yourself and put this person in his right place and live your life freely and happily.

First: Get used to not getting used to:

Meaning if you are certain within you that anything in this world will leave it, whether it is with your consent or without your consent, for example you may lose your father or mother or both and you may lose your job or you may lose your car, and if you put in your head that anything you own may lose it in a moment, you will not be sad To parting something.

Second: Learn how to love yourself:

I will be tough at this point, but are you preserving your dignity? Do you put your dignity above your head? You must stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself, raise yourself, and be convinced that no one is more important than yourself and no one is more important than your pride.

Third: to realize that you are trying to change a person in all ways and followed all methods, but in fact you are the one who must change and not him.

Fourth: There are red lines in your life that no one can cross: In your life in general, you should have red lines. No person, no matter what, is allowed to approach them, even if only as a joke.

Fifth: Choosing the right person for you: You must choose the person that suits you. Do not take someone who loves you only without loving him or take someone you love and he does not return the same love to you, choose the person who has the same culture as you and the same things that you love, the same interests So you complete a happy life with him.

Sixth: Do not change yourself for the sake of anyone: Do not try to adapt to something that is not of your nature until you please anyone.

Seventh: Connecting unhappiness with the person you relate to: When you think about this person that you relate to, always link your thinking to him with the word "harmful" until you program your mind that this person is causing me unhappiness and after a while you will forget him.

Eighth: Stay away from this person and try not to contact him at all: Do not try to show him that you are in pain and do not try to post on social media anything that hints at him about your condition or that you are angry or that you are destroyed on the contrary, let him feel that you are happy and that you are starting to get rid of His presence in your life and that you are happy with others, and here I assure you that he will go crazy and try to contact you.

Ninth: If he tries to contact you: Do not answer him from the first time so that he does not feel that you are eager to contact you and beware of being weak when he talks with you and tries to affect you, and this point in particular is for girls because they are more affectionate than men and you must make sure that he talks to you To make sure that you are still under his control and not because he missed you, and I also assure you that when he feels that your style disagreed with him, he will threaten you that he will end the relationship and try to affect you that he is angry and in fact you will be surprised when you find him calling you again to try to influence you whenever he feels You reject these attempts and you are stronger than before. Here the hunter turns into prey and he becomes the one who pursues you, and the more he does this, your self-confidence increases more and more and becomes stronger.

In the end, if you are attached to someone who follows these steps and be patient, the most important thing is patience at this stage and do not wait for quick results, but I promise you that the most difficult period is the first three days of the distance and you will find a great improvement after the first week, but after the second week you will feel that this person is not No matter in your life as you think, and I also want you to be new friendships and to have your own community and then your work in which after a while you will find yourself excel in it. In the end, please leave your comments on this article, and if you want me to talk about a specific topic in the next article, send me your opinions that matter to me and share the article with your friends for a positive better life .

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